One of my favorite tools to write more and feel better about writing.

One of my favorite tools to write more and feel better about writing.

When I was in graduate school, I sometimes sat in front of my lap top (usually in bed because I never could write at a desk) and felt the frustration build. I didn't know what happened next and I needed to know so I could turn in my assignment!

In those days, the way I felt about my writing dictated how it went. If I felt clear and focused, I got things done without a hitch. When I wasn't so sure or doubted my abilities, the only thing that kept me going was a good deadline. 

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How I keep disappointment in perspective.

How I keep disappointment in perspective.

As a writing coach, I've seen the heartbreak of writing up close. 

I know. We don't talk about that part of the process very often, but here's what it can look like:

  • You share your manuscript with a friend and they return it, saying they couldn't get past the first three chapters and failing to offer any helpful advice

  • Your award-winning manuscript gets rejected by agents

  • You feel like you've been writing forever, and you STILL haven't finished your book or landed an assignment

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Putting your inner critic in perspective.

Putting your inner critic in perspective.

Last week, I sent my writing partner the next installment of my work, and like always, I told her that I had no idea what I'd written. That I'd slipped into that frame of mind where I went back and forth between loving it and thinking there was nothing there.

I do this every time, and I've begun to recognize a pattern in my writing process: The excitement I feel about a story idea is what gets me to the page. My curiosity about what happens next keeps me going. Yet somewhere along the way I begin to oscillate between two emotional states: 

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